Everything will be wonderful because you are! If you make yourself into a joyful, wonderful human being, then you will see that your work, home and marriage will all be wonderful. When I told my father that I wanted to marry her, he said, "What? You don't know her father's name? You don't know who they are or what they are? How can you marry her?” When I married, I did not know my wife’s full name. If you have matured beyond your parents’ judgment or prejudice, that is different – now you can make your own decisions. When parents organize a marriage, their judgment may not be the best, but they generally have your best interests in mind. But where such religions are practiced, there the divorce rate is highest! Neither God's diktats nor the law is able to stop the breakups. Well, many religions have fixed it that you cannot divorce, that it is completely wrong. But in most countries, there is a law: if you make a mistake, at least two years you must suffer before you can divorce. Within three months you will know what it really is. Within those ten people that they know in their life, you marry one guy or girl. If a young man or young woman wants to marry, who will they marry? Their contacts are very limited. You cannot find the best man or woman in the world because we do not know where they are! With the limited contacts that we have, we can arrange something that is reasonably good. It is best that it is arranged by responsible, sensible people, by those who are most concerned about your wellbeing, who have a larger reach. You may think so many things about it, but it is arranged either by your emotion, your greed, or by someone. Of course, sometimes you really hit it off with someone and it may work out – that is another matter.Įverything is an arrangement. Well, tomorrow morning you could realize you do not want to have anything to do with her! When you are twenty, due to various compulsions or peer pressure, you may take decisions which will not last a lifetime. You may just like the way a girl is dressed and you want to get married today. When parents are the basis of organizing the marriage, the success rate is a little better because they will think more long term. You cannot find the best man or woman in the world because we do not know where they are! Well, people may say the divorce rate here is low due to the social stigma associated with divorce, but definitely how it is arranged is also an important factor. In Spain, the divorce rate is around sixty-five percent Russia is at fifty-one percent United States, forty-six percent. Luxembourg, a small country which is held as one of the most economically prosperous and free societies, has a divorce rate of eighty-seven percent. The success of something is in the result. Well, that is the kind of life you have chosen. If your priority is such that someone's wealth by marriage becomes yours and that is all that matters to you, that is fine. I asked a simple question, “Do you want to marry the girl or someone's wealth?” It depends on what your priority is. One girl is well-educated and pretty, but another girl had a wealthy father. Recently, someone asked me about choosing a girl for their boy. Sometimes, even your parents themselves may be exploitative – they may be doing things for their own reasons, like their prestige, their wealth, their nonsense. There are exploitative people everywhere. The idea that arranged marriage is some kind of a slavery – well that depends on whether there is exploitation. I asked a simple question, “Do you want to marry the girl or someone's wealth?”
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